Shooot. Gone’head witcha bad self.

Obviously I’m grooving on your writing and agreeing on what you say, but thanks for the op to add my $.02.

The other day I expressed to one of my new friends here in Conservopolis that I’m sick of the 20-year-0ld chick community at my masjid and in our community in general. Because at that point several people were being really… high school. And I got over high school several years ago, in college, thank-you-very-much.

And here my mother complains that all my friends are married women. And for the most part… they kind of are. Mentally, that’s where I am. And that’s what I’m looking for.

I loved your next post (started there and read backward through the Sister’s carnival at Writeous Sister Speaks) because of your remarks on non-convert relatives. How is it that my relatives actively avoid seriously discussing marriage with me… yet are okay with the non-married-sleeping-around-dating folk… this blows my mind.

Anyway. Thank you. Right on. Preach it. I’m with you in the search for not hot but smokin’.

peace
TwennyTwo

skarim – say what? You don’t dig my middle-school thesis?

I think that the whole thing about interestingness is that it *should* be up for grabs, even if it isn’t at the moment. Some of us are into poetry, some of us are into philosophy….some of us are into knitting. Or cooking. Or the X-files. Or history. Or whatever. Thing is, you look around at all the “other” people, and they organize themselves successfully in little subcultures – they have different ways of dressing, talking, and things they like that form the basis for smaller communities. As for the Muslims, there isn’t that much variety – unless it’s along ethnic lines. There’s the whole thing about doing good and preventing wrong, but the danger is that it gets….stifling (and here I reveal myself as tragically uncommitted to various causes. Oh well). I just think that we should be able to do those things and then be into what we’re into. We are completely socialized to be into/not into certain things – but I think that’s the point – and I found this really off-putting about the Muslim community for a long time. Variety is the spice of life, no? We can’t press everyone into the same mold even if we’d like to. People have personalities – unavoidably. Walhamdulillah

This is my new motto.

p.s. in the meanwhile: what defines an interesting person anyway? aren’t we socialized to accept certain things and be turned off by certain things?